The most important question?

Increasingly, I'm coming to believe that the most important question in the world is, "What do you (really) want."  And the answer to that question, the honest answer, is often unflattering.  "Control" and (the flip side of control) "to be taken care of" seem like two of the most likely answers. "To do nothing" is a likely answer among many white men (see for example, the movie Office Space).  "To be better than you" and its many variations ("to feel superior to you", "to have power over you","to appear smarter than you", "to win at all costs", "to appear important") I imagine are also common.  "To lose", "to feel weak", "to be dependent" I bet are common too.  While there is altruism and joy and good faith in the world -- its feels to me like the less flattering underlying motives are more prevalent in the world right now.  I'd be interested to hear your thoughts on the matter in the comments section below.